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A Borderlines Guide To The FAST Skill

A Borderlines Guide To The FAST Skill

Holding on to your self-respect as BPD is hard. I don’t feel great very often. My self-worth is low, and I think others view me how I view myself. That means I tend to put myself down when I communicate with others. I don’t have much respect for myself. Well, that’s...

10 DBT Fast Skill Activities To Try In Therapy

10 DBT Fast Skill Activities To Try In Therapy

The FAST skill reminds us to maintain our self-respect when asking for something.  F = Being fair to ourselves and other people. A = Not apologising or over-apologising. S = Sticking to our values and beliefs. T = Telling the truth. It can be challenging to practice...

40 Ways to Use The FAST Skill

40 Ways to Use The FAST Skill

The FAST skills help us remember the need to hold onto self-respect.  F = Being fair to ourselves and other people. A = Not apologising or over-apologising. S = Sticking to our values and beliefs. T = Telling the truth. If you're looking for ways to practice the FAST...

The DBT GIVE Skill: How To Hold On To Friends

The DBT GIVE Skill: How To Hold On To Friends

Have you noticed that as you go through life, it's harder to get and keep close friends? [1] It turns out that saying and doing nice things—(thanks, Mom)—actually works. That's not to say that you don't do that as you get older; I just think we find it harder. ...

DEAR MAN: Ask For What You Want Effectively

DEAR MAN: Ask For What You Want Effectively

Think back to the last time you asked someone to do something for you. “I asked someone to cut my toenails, but they said take a long walk off a short pier. How rude of that stranger in the street to reply like that”.  I’m not surprised they declined. What I mean...

What is emotional regulation, and how does it help?

What is emotional regulation, and how does it help?

What is Emotional Regulation?What Are Emotions?Why is Emotional Regulation Important?How To Regulate Your EmotionsWhy Emotional Regulation is ChallengingSigns of Emotional DysregulationWrapping It Up What is Emotional Regulation? Emotional regulation is managing and...

Check The Facts

Check The Facts

Have you ever felt yourself making a knee-jerk decision based on emotion? Maybe someone said something to you, or you strongly disagreed with a situation happening before you. Whatever the case may be, what was the outcome? Did it work out okay, or was it not so okay?...

ABC PLEASE: Feel Good and Improve Your Mood

ABC PLEASE: Feel Good and Improve Your Mood

You've probably heard the expression, "You are what you eat." But maybe another way of thinking is, "You are happy because of what you do." In the same vein as "You are what you eat." - when you do things that bring positivity and happiness, you ultimately become...

DBT Mindfulness Exercises: 10 Simple Ways to Stay Present

DBT Mindfulness Exercises: 10 Simple Ways to Stay Present

DBT is built on mindfulness, being in the present and letting go of the past and future. But practicing mindfulness isn’t always easy. It’s often confused with meditation, but while meditation can have many focal points, mindfulness is about being present in the...